Do you know where self-confidence comes from?
It comes from your thoughts.
Why? Because our thoughts cause our feelings.
And yet, most of us believe the confidence comes from our achievements.
Like…
- How much success we have had in the past
- How much money we have in the bank.
- How much we weigh.
- How good we are at our job.
But, the real truth is, self-confidence is an emotion and emotions (or feelings) are created by our thoughts.
Dictionary.com defines self-confidence as a feeling of trust in one’s ability, qualities and judgement. And, a self confident person usually possesses a positive belief that they can generally accomplish anything they want to do.
Self-confident people have positive thoughts about themselves and do not have the need to judge or put others down to make themselves feel better.
Self-doubt is the opposite of self-confidence. And, what you think about yourself is either going to create self-doubt or self-confidence.
Learning to think positive thoughts that create self-confidence is a skill that takes practice. The first step is to become aware of what you are thinking.
Try doing a thought download. You do this by writing all your current thoughts about yourself down on paper. Now take a good look at them.
Are you thinking negative thoughts that create negative feelings? Or, do you have some positive thoughts mixed in with the negativity?
Take you negative thoughts that you wrote down and try to turn them around to something more positive. Here are a few examples:
- I am too old to start a new career. Versus: I’m willing to believe I can change careers at any age.
- Nobody would want to hire me. Versus: I am choosing to believe that I have great skills that would make employers feel very good about hiring me.
- I am never going to find a partner and will probably spend the rest of my life alone. Versus: I am committed to believing that there is someone out there just for me.
Believe me, changing your thoughts can and will change your life. And, we all have the ability to change our thoughts.
So, it stands to reason that if you want to be more confident, clearly watch your vocabulary and how you talk to yourself both out loud and within your mental dialogue.
Remember, self-confidence is an emotion and our feelings are always generated by our thoughts. You must train yourself to observe your thoughts and get rid of your negativity. Developing self-confidence takes practice, but you can create the life you want by learning to manage your thoughts!
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